Confessions of an Introvert Online Businesswoman
This is something that I haven’t shared before. I guess it’s about time to make this blog a little more personal.
Other people might find me unapproachable the first time they meet me. I can’t blame them. I know it’s been like that since I can remember. I must admit that I’m not the kind of person who initiates a conversation. I would rather listen than talk. If I need to be quiet for longer hours, I won’t have a problem about it.
More or less, that’s what you called an introvert person. And that is me.
Since I’m doing business online, it’s important to market on a regular basis. One of the ways is to attend local events to enlarge network. And I’ve done that recently. I went to a local event. I even created a business/flyer card so that I can have something to give when somebody asks for it. And this is what happened.
I didn’t expect too much heavy traffic on my way to a MeetUp event. (MeetUp is a website where like-minded people can meet in person). I was already late when I arrived and didn’t have the chance to meet other people. They were already gathered in a table and talking about their businesses.
When I saw them, I froze a little bit and thought to myself, “What am I doing here? Am I going to really do this? As an introvert person, initiating a conversation is such a hard task. It means getting out of your comfort zone.
Still undecided on what to do next, I pretended that I was waiting for someone and looking at my phone. I am still gathering up courage to approach someone and join the table. Maybe for others, this was easy. But for me, it wasn’t. Every time I go to this type of gathering where everyone is a stranger, I have to have lots of reasons for me to attend. And since I want to grow my business, I have to overcome this. There is no other choice.
After a few minutes, I decided to approach a table where there are still vacant chairs. I asked two women if I can sit with them. They smiled and agreed. I told myself, “See, it wasn’t that hard.” I do hope that I was able to have more time to get to know these people at my table. But the organizer started to call our attention and said that the room is ready for the talk. I didn’t get the chance to have a chat with them at all.
My first instinct was to stand up and go inside the room, instead of waiting for them. Well, I did the former. Instead of waiting for other people to stand up in my table, I was the first one to leave. I don’t know. The introvert in me won the battle at the moment. I didn’t even get the chance to say that it was nice meeting these people.
You could say that my goal to extend my network by attending a local even was unsuccessful. But I actually affirmed myself that I made a progress. People who knew me didn’t know I had this problem. Because when I’m already comfortable with a person, I have a different character.
Since I made it to the first step, I think I can make it to the second, third and more. And soon, I’ll be an expert in approaching a complete stranger. I’ll update you when that happens.
I shared this because I want you to know that if you are an introvert person like me, you are not alone on the struggles you’re experiencing.
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